In the book The 5 Love Languages \u200b\u200b"Gary Chapman", it compares the lack of love heart with a person with the image of an empty warehouse. When this happens, the person is going to manifest their behavior in different ways, usually related to the type of temperament they have, may become irritable, hypersensitive, irrelevant, superficial, and so on. This type of behavior should not necessarily be taken as hatred, but as the order of a person's heart by a compelling need to know oneself loved There are different events in human life that can cover at times this lack of love, get a new friendship, meet the "ideal partner", marry, become parents, etc., but often these events we raise for a while but not being sustained by a love road to maturity, it tends to disappear again we are confronted with our reality, waiting for another special event and so on. This situation causes our lives to experience ups and downs and our emotions come into an experience of "roller coaster", a time up and one down, fun to play but not our hearts, because it creates instability, insecurity and fear, preventing love with freedom. All these situations are not only our marriage but in the rest of the relationships that we value as human beings.
When a person has an empty love tank, you may take one of these two extreme attitudes: One is that against their need to start demanding that you fill the tank, it becomes selfish, demands, claims and discussions generated each time you do not treat her "with love" and may reach the waiver of the relationship and seek a new relationship to fill you again "love" it needs. I should add in passing that a new relationship can cool the person until he passes the bubble of emotion and imagination, and we began to realize that the person next to us is not a Angel and has also never thought to find defects, then the person's life becomes a constantly changing relationship after relationship until you find the person who "really loves her."
The other extreme attitude of a person who has a love tank is empty the victim's position, with levels of sadness, sometimes reaching deep depression. Some of them do not have the character to express it verbally and become heroes or heroines who bear the full, insults, verbal and physical abuse, even sexual abuse, etc., But that support them because they feel they do not find anyone to love them truth and when they expresses love is rejected. On the other hand many of them with the naked eye may be laudable service attitudes, generosity, cooperation and generosity, but they are actually manifestations of a need of wanting to make a little love and affection.
For a person can finally reach a level of mature love, you need to get rid of both of these extreme attitudes, selfishness offender, abused and made to feel guilty and indebted to the other person, and also the position of victim or self-pity, which does not dignify the value God has placed in each person. In mature love, one must learn to give but also receive affection. The Bible says that we "love Him, because He first loved us "and that" whatever a man sows that shall he also reap, "and this does not mean that we should not stitch without thread, but for which there is a mature love relationship must be mutually beneficial and not one side. Giving without expecting to receive is only part of the truth, because everyone who gives, receives, Luke 6:38.
