INTRODUCTION According to current understanding and love is basically a feeling, deep, intimate, personal, and against which generally do not have control . This feeling has consequences whether or not I have what I experience. Much of our emotional and mental stability depends on us to love and feel loved. The way we experience it or we agree to relate to that feeling can bring feelings of inferiority, guilt, difficulties relating to others, or on the contrary, if we felt that lack of love or vice versa. Psychologists say it is a primary need in man is difficult to express but that is always present. The Bible speaks of it in practically every one of his books and even has a book dedicated to the love of family, Song of Songs, and a chapter which has been titled "The Hymn to Love" 1 Corinthians 13; in this chapter the Apostle Paul says that the virtues are 3 remaining but the greatest of these is Love
Since ancient times stories or stories that we read about love relationships are fairy tales, where once that is acquired and found that feeling of reciprocity between partners, we conclude that we can live happily ever after. " However, when faced with the reality we realize that it definitely was not so certain the case, as well as this sentiment comes from one moment to another, sometimes it may also fade sooner than we thought. The reasons could be many as we saw in a previous topic on the problems that affect our relationship. But this time I want to share based on the book "Gary Chapman" LANGUAGES OF LOVE , an aspect that should be taken into account to maintain the highest virtue that mentions the Apostle Paul.
I would also mention some previous aspects worth considering before you think that can save our relationship:
1. Remove Adamic life attitude that the culprit is the other . While all was well in paradise, Eve was to Adam "flesh of his flesh and bone of his bones," but when both were in trouble, for Adam was to blame Eve Eve and the serpent was to blame, but God is a just God gives to each his sentence. When a home has problems whenever there is a shared responsibility, so do not evade our responsibility and we see this issue as trying to find the part that touches me without judging anyone.
2. Recover our attitude of faith with which we began this adventure of love with our partner . None of us are married calculating that this would take 2.5 to 10 years. All we enter our respective relationship thinking it would be till death do us part. The Apostle Paul says that we put off the old man and put on the back. I shed my critical attitude and I review an attitude of faith. God is the creator of marriage did for anyone or anything separate us and He is willing to do it with yours if you can agree with him that this is possible!
The book that we review, and advise you what step to acquire, we do give a good account of what the Bible says and since the creation of man, made in the image and likeness of God, and He is unique, there is none like him in the whole universe. Similarly we can come from the same household, the same parents, the same meals, the same schools but still be completely different, even in our way of giving and receiving affection. This is further accentuated in the couple because they come from different homes, different customs, different schools, etc. In the manner of giving and receiving affection is what Gary Chapman called the "Love Languages" and summarized in 5 ( words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, Touch physical), which we will review one by one in this blog.
But speaking of languages \u200b\u200bin secular sense, if two people speak different languages, though they have good intentions, a healthy heart and wasted a lot of effort and energy, is simply not going to understand and end up frustrated and discouraged. With regard to the language of love, may I please speak to me so tender and loving to my partner, sweet and romantic words, but maybe the language that it operates to receive love is to have the acts of service and what she expects me to show you my love, because from his perspective, "the words with the wind." If each continues to maintain its own language, never reach an understanding and think that the person you were married may not love us. Thus the goal of this book is to help discover what is the primary language of your spouse and also help to express your love in that language.
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